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Social science, is the area where we can seek a holistic explanation for Self-Confidence. According to the psychiatrist – and author of the book “Dare: Therapy of Self-Confidence” – Frédéric Fanget  [Ref 1], self-confidence is much more than a mere cog in our mental functioning: it is the heart of a pyramid which rests, at the base, on the self-esteem gained from a very young age, and it is externalized, at the top, by self-assertion. It is therefore a fundamental part of our personality. If it runs out, then comes pain. This makes self-confidence appear as a result within this psychological equation ; Self-Confidence = Self-esteem + Self-assertion.

The psychiatrist continues to define the lack of self-confidence as a deficit. He tells the story of one of his patients who suffers from it;

Célia (the patient) wrote to the doctor in a letter : “ I do not have confidence in myself. I’m shy, I depend on others, I’m afraid they judge me negatively, I doubt my abilities, I dare not undertake new activities or take responsibility. I’m afraid of the unknown. Often I have distressing thoughts. I make films for a long time in advance.”

The words of Célia were deeply describing the lack of self-confidence much better than any scientific article. This phenomenon can turn someone‟s life into a real nightmare, if there is no psychiatric treatment.

Célia’s story was an individual state that anyone can live. But lose self-confidence can be more embarrassing when the individual is part of a team working on a something to accomplish in a collective way.

Personally I adore the strategic visions of Soccer Coaches; they are best teachers of leadership, risk-taking, proactive thinking, agile decision-making, and Self-Confidence.

In his TEDx talk-show [Ref 2]

Dr. Ivan Joseph – head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University – explains that the most important thing a team player should have is Self-Confidence. He sets a clear and simple definition of self-confidence for his players: it is the ability and the belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulties. He insists that self-confidence is a skill that can be trained. He distinguishes the model for developing this skill; through repetition – practice – persistence. Also, he gives magic phrases that anyone can say each morning in front of his/ her mirror to feel self-confident;

I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.
If I do not believe in it, no one else will.
No one will believe in me, unless I do. 

Self-Confidence is a performant tool to face failure, it is your close that can help you in times of uncertainty, it is your true support to fight against the doubt that arises most often in the life of an entrepreneur.

I do believe that Self-Confidence should exceed the individual limit to describe the entire organization which wants to make innovation and get a respectful position in the market.

Organizations, especially those who are formed by small teams (like Start-Ups), could be positively influenced by the strategic feature of self-confidence. Indeed, if team members share this key to success, the organization will easily impose its brand into the market.

Be self-confident inside organization requires to be confident in your different managerial ways. Self-Confidence is an important organizational character to stand out from the crowd, and, get a high competitive advantage.

Self-Confidence gives you the capacity to Seduce the minds of the audience, to be unforgettable, to be the topic of the crowd. Building start-up businesses is all about seducing investors, partners and customers. This cannot be realized if you are not sure of yourself and what you are doing. Having self-confidence allows you to survive during the war for your business growth.

However you have to remember; Self-Confidence when it is not based on competence, raises arrogance. Arrogance may reflect a sense of vulnerability [Ref 3].

Ref 1. FANGET, F. (2003). OSER : THERAPIE DE LA CONFIANCE EN SOI. Odile Jacob. Paris, pp. 7-30.

Ref 2. Ivan Joseph on The Skill of Self Confidence,, consulted on 17th March 2014.

Ref 3. MINTZBERG, H. (2005). Des managers, des vrais! Pas des MBA : Un regard critique sur le management et son enseignement. Translated with the help of the National Book Center, pp. 83.

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